Category: Boss and Colleague Interaction
Impress Your Boss With an Awesome Presentation
| January 25, 2012 | Posted by admin under Boss and Colleague Interaction, Work World, Workplace Management and Coping Skills |
Stop Your Boss from Abusing You Sexually Without Losing Your Job
| June 12, 2011 | Posted by admin under Boss and Colleague Interaction, Work World, Workplace Management and Coping Skills |
Having a boss sexually assault you is wrong, demeaning, and unacceptable. However, it can be tough to stand up for yourself when your job is at stake. Here are some steps you fan take to stand up for yourself. Steps Alert your close family/friends of what is happening. You don’t have to make it a… more
Tell if an Employee Is Under Stress
| June 6, 2011 | Posted by admin under Boss and Colleague Interaction, Work World, Workplace Management and Coping Skills |
If you are concerned that an employee may be under stress, you should take the time to evaluate the individual’s daily habits. There are many signs that suggest a person is under stress, and although not all individuals display the same signs, you can usually tell if an employee is under stress when he displays… more
Get Along With Co Workers
| June 5, 2011 | Posted by admin under Boss and Colleague Interaction, Work World, Workplace Management and Coping Skills |
Getting along with co-workers is not always easy. When you spend so much time with the same people, you are bound to experience some form of conflict. However, clashes at work often make accomplishing your daily tasks more difficult. Therefore, it may be smarter to learn how to deal with co-workers and avoid the conflict… more
So, you just finished what you thought was a great project at work, and now your boss is listing all the things you need to improve upon. Don’t get discouraged; constructive criticism is a key part of any job. Through this article, learn how to accept criticism and do your job as well as possible.
Steps
- Accept that you are not perfect. If you begin each task thinking that nothing will go wrong, you’re fooling yourself. You will make mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them.
- Double check your work. After you’ve finished, and before you submit it to your supervisor, be sure you’ve gone over everything carefully. This can help you to avoid silly mistakes and ensure that your boss won’t have to bother you about minor problems.
- Don’t take it personally. If your co-worker has criticism for you, remind yourself that it doesn’t necessarily mean s/he doesn’t like you, or that you’re not good enough for the job. Your co-worker is simply trying to ensure that you do the best work possible.
- Listen carefully. If you ignore critical comments, you’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes. Take notes and continually remind yourself how to fix the problem. This step is the most difficult, as it can mean that one must “suck up” one’s pride and admit one’s responsibility in one’s work-related errors.
- Ask yourself what can you learn from this criticism. If you feel yourself growing defensive or getting angry, repeat the question ‘What can I learn?’
- Agree with part of the criticism. When faced with criticism, most people focus on the part of the negative feedback that may not be true and ignore the rest. This doesn’t solve any problems, and you don’t learn anything. When you agree with one part of the criticism, you become open to learning. You don’t have to agree with everything; even agreeing with one small aspect of the criticism will create an atmosphere of teamwork. The focus then can become how you’ll work together to solve a problem, which will lessen your feeling of being attacked.
- Analyze and evaluate what you’ve heard. You need time to process the information, determine if it’s a valid criticism and decide what you’ll do to solve the problem or correct the mistake. If this is a complaint you’ve heard repeatedly, you should think about what you can learn from the situation so it doesn’t happen again.
- Don’t hold a grudge. Staying angry/upset about criticism can affect your future work. Put the mistakes out of your mind and focus on doing the best job possible on the next task.
- Clear the air. If you’re upset with how your co-worker criticized you, let him or her know as soon as possible, so there are no lingering bad feelings between the two of you. Explain why it upset you, and suggest changes that could be made to strengthen your relationship.
- Accept the fact that others may see something that you don’t. Even if you don’t agree with the criticism, others may be seeing something that you are not even aware of. If they say that you are negative or overbearing, and you don’t feel that you are, well; maybe you are and you just don’t see it. Allow for the fact that others may be right, and use that possibility to look within yourself.
- Be happy whatever the criticism and do not let the criticism bring you down. It may be that the co-worker has problems at home and is just venting his anger off you as an outlet. Be glad you have at least helped him or her.
Tips
- Always remember that it is your work being criticized, not you. For example, if your co-worker is criticizing a letter you wrote, forget that you ever wrote it. Pretend that someone else did, and your co-worker is merely asking you to revise it for them.
- Remember, your co-worker is not doing this because he or she does not like you and/or your work. They are doing this because they want you to improve your work.
- Whatever you do make sure that it is the best from your side. People who have difficulty accepting criticism are less likely to succeed in their profession.
- Always give yourself sometime to think before responding, will save you loads of problems later
- Often coworkers find your mistakes because they want to make a mark of their own. It is a good hack to leave one obvious mistake that is easy to solve; your boss and coworkers can see it and tell you about (and feel they’ve contributed). Once they found that, their hunger to find mistakes will be satisfied and you can get away with things that would otherwise have been noticed.
- If the opportunity arises, discuss the criticism with someone you trust to give you an objective view; in this way you can see if the criticism is reasonable or just someone using his status to assert his authority over others.
Warnings
- Don’t try to get your own back, especially with your manager; he has the authority (usually backed up by his boss)to assert that authority to your disadvantage.
- If you feel you’re being picked on unfairly, keep a diary of encounters and copies of any critical e-mails or letters.
- If you feel any written criticism is unjustified, respond to it in the same medium, answering any points made with which you disagree. Written matter is generally kept on file and if you have failed to respond, the record will only show one (the manager’s) point of view.
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